I was tucking Imogen into bed. I have told Imogen, from the time she was small, that Santa is a super fun Christmas thing to pretend. We've had lots of Santa fun knowing he's imaginary.
So... tonight, as I was saying, I was tucking her in.
Me: Good night, honey! Sweet dreams! Try to fall asleep fast because MamaJen and I need time to fill your stocking!
Imogen: Listen, Mom. I think you should consider keeping your opinion to yourself because I have decided that I believe in Santa.
Whaddaya say to that?!??!!!
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ReplyDeleteI think Imogen is not being rude, she is just a child and she is only hoping to have some help from outside (in the form of filled stockings) to fulfill her image of Santa. I respect her choice to believe in Santa, and adore her wisdom.
ReplyDeleteThanks brownian. I'm glad you could understand Imogen's comment in the spirit it was intented. Imogen has always been lucky to know you :)
DeleteYou're kidding right Lady D? Nothing says I've taught you a valuable important lessons than waking up to an empty stocking on Christmas morning because YOU thought it was rude. Pretty offside.
ReplyDeleteChristmas is not the time
Indeed. Imogen has autism, characterized by social communication difficulties. There is NO WAY that I will punish my child, especially on Christmas, for not finding the words a neurotypical would use to explain that she would like to have Santa figure differently in our Christmas traditions.
DeleteLady D was out of line and, in my opinion, the one being rude. Not Imogen.
Dear Lady D,
ReplyDeleteI wish you a Merry Christmas and hope you have the opportunity to work out your issues.
Best ofbluck to you.
Dear Lady D,
ReplyDeleteI wish you a Merry Christmas and hope you have the opportunity to work out your issues.
Best ofbluck to you.
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ReplyDeleteI don't object to you responding, nor do I or did I claim superior knowledge. I think you are rude to call my daughter rude, more, I did not ask for advice and certainly wasn't seeking the condescending shlock you offered. Your response was unkind. As someone with autism who has children with autism, I find using autism as an excuse for unkindness unacceptable.
ReplyDeleteI wish you a happy new year.
I don't object to you responding, nor do I or did I claim superior knowledge. I think you are rude to call my daughter rude, more, I did not ask for advice and certainly wasn't seeking the condescending shlock you offered. Your response was unkind. As someone with autism who has children with autism, I find using autism as an excuse for unkindness unacceptable.
ReplyDeleteI wish you a happy new year.
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ReplyDeleteDear Lady D,
ReplyDeleteI am sorry to hear about your traumatic childhood; our early years can be so hard to move beyond.
Hearing what you say about your struggles, I can offer you a few suggestions about interacting in an online environment that might help, if you would like. Face-to-faces always different and I don't know what shape that takes for you. Also, I'm not an SLP. But I'm willing to offer some informal help, if you want.
I never think anyone's issues should have to be dealt with alone, in isolation.
Just to be clear, I thought your comment was unkind because you suggested my daughter was rude, you suggested she not receive gifts, and all this on Christmas. It felt like an angry, ungenerous response. Thank you for explaining your backstory.
Let me know if I can help you out.
okay, thanks for listening. I think I'm best to reinstate my policy of NEVER commenting on people's blogs. lots of people who read my blog say I should comment to get involved more, but it usually ends in disaster. I don't think there's an answer for it. Things like this are always going to happen.
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